Book Review – How to Win Friends and Influence People – Dale Carnegie


Relationship is an important factor in life and human beings are very prone to “make up and break up” situation which happens several times. Human relations are established with various factors and it depends on us how we keep those relations intact. There are also situations where we are influenced by others and we consider them as our ideal. Looking at the other way, one can also be an ideal for others, can influence and have a good convincing power. There are many work, research and books written on human behaviour and human relations, this article picks one of them. The book titled “How to Win Friends and Influence People”, written by Dale Carnegie is a must read for everyone as it makes us understand several practical life facing situation with ample examples.

About the Author

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Dale Carnegie was an American writer and lecturer. Born on 24th November 1888 in Missouri in United States, his work is considered to be the finest in terms of human relations, inter personal skills, public speaking and self-improvement. He was a famous writer of his time and his work is still remembered today.

Carnegie’s first collection of his writings was Public Speaking: a Practical Course for Business Men (1926), later entitled Public Speaking and Influencing Men in Business (1932). In 1936, he wrote How to Win Friends and Influence People which became a bestseller from its debut. By the time of his death on 1st November 1955, the book had sold five million copies in 31 languages. He wrote several other books including:

  • The Art of Public Speaking
  • The Leader in You
  • How to Stop Worrying and Start Living
  • How to Enjoy Your Life and Your Job etc.

The book title of Dale Carnegie says all about the content and is indeed impressive and draws attention and so does the material inside the book.

About 15 percent of one’s financial success is due to one’s technical knowledge and about 85 percent is due to skill in human engineering- to personality and the ability to lead people.

– Dale Carnegie

Dale Carnegie books had many things to offer for book lovers. All his books contain many examples which provides a broad view of the perspective. It will not be injustice to say that his books provide a practical way to look at the situations in life. The best part of his writing was, he used to provide examples followed by establishing the principles.

About the Book

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How to Win Friends and Influence People is his best-selling book. Published in 1936, till today this book is read by many across the globe as it provides basic etiquette that one should posses in his life. The book deals with the fundamental techniques in handling people, six ways to make people like you, how to win people to your way of thinking and how to change people without giving offense or arousing resentment. Each of the afore-mentioned topics are dealt in separate part of the book.

In the words of Dale Carnegie, “Dealing with people is probably the biggest problem you face, especially if you are in business”.  The same is applicable in day to day life as People’s Management plays a vital role in life.

In life, we often come to situation we are criticized by others and we do criticize others. The book starts with the fundamental techniques in handling people and guess what is the first fundamental principle? It is indeed criticism. It says not to criticize, condemn or complain. In fact, Dale Carnegie states that ‘Criticism is a self-defence tool.” The chapter on criticism is worth to read and understand.

Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain- and most fools do.

– Dale Carnegie

This book is best known for providing Six ways to Make People Like You which are as follows:

  1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
  2. Smile
  3. Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
  4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
  5. Talk in terms of the other person’s interest.
  6. Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.

The entire book is full of powerful and motivational statements. It gives you a sense of self-love as well apart from motivation. While reading the book, one can feel the power of words and get the essence of some worth literary pieces. The entire book is motivational and contains worth reading material. I have picked some of the quotes which is worth reading and hence thought sharing the same which includes:

  • In our interpersonal relations we should never forget that all our associates are human beings and hunger for appreciation. It is the legal tender that all souls enjoy.
  • First, arouse in the other person an eager want. He who can do this has the whole world with him. He who cannot walks a lonely way.
  • The desire for a feeling of importance is one of the chief distinguishing differences between mankind and animals.
  • If there is any one secret of success, said Henry Ford, it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from your own.
  • The world is full of people who are grabbing and self-seeking. So the rare “individual who unselfishly tries to serve others has an enormous advantage. He has little competition.
  • We are interested in others when they are interested in us.
  • People who talk only of themselves think only for themselves. And those people who think only of themselves are hopelessly uneducated. They are not educated, no matter how instructed they may be.
  • If you argue and rankle and contradict, you may achieve a victory sometimes; but it will be an empty victory because you will never get your opponent’s goodwill.
  • Buddha said: “Hatred is never ended by hatred but by love, and a misunderstanding is never ended by an argument but by tact, diplomacy, conciliation and a sympathetic desire to see the other person’s viewpoint.

There are many other quotes which are impressive and worth to read but it is not possible to mention all. Read the book as it is a good material for developing interpersonal skills and self improvement which in turn helps in personality development.  Many people might have already gone through this book and those who haven’t please read it as it is readily available in almost every book stall and can be purchased online as well. I will be coming up with more stuffs on books soon.

Stay tuned… Stay happy and keep visiting… 🙂 🙂

– Ashish Kumar

The Writer’s Block…


Writing is an art. When a writer pens down his creativity with the use of magical words, a new literary piece is born. It takes immense effort to write, from beginning to the end. What to write and how to present it? It happens several times when you thought of writing something chosen but came up writing on something else. Isn’t it??? Even though when you come up writing something else which you didn’t thought of doing so and when the end result is satisfying, it is again a new creation. This happened with me several times. I think to write something specific and come out of writing something else.

Writing gives me satisfaction and I am sure it gives satisfaction to all who writes. But what happens when the writers are unable to write for some time or the thinking ability slows down for a while. The situation where writers are unable to produce their literary pieces is what we call the “writer’s block”. It is the situation where the author loses the ability to produce new work or experiences a creative slowdown. This is quite natural and happens with every writer. It gives the writer to take rest from writing for a while and come back with refreshing new literary pieces. Going forward, refreshment does play a role when one comes back. As the mind is ready, devoted and the best part is, one writes from his heart.

As it is said, when you write keep the heart and the soul intact in your literary work, then only readers will get the real fragrance and taste of your writing.  Don’t let the “heart and soul” missing in your work. Writer’s block is a way to revive yourself, think little different and come up with a new genre. For example, if someone is writing mostly on romanticism, he may come up writing on social issues etc. I think the writer’s block gives a chance to think differently, try different genre and also present in different way. I have been away from writing several times. In blogging world, I was silent for about six months too due to my studies and other personal stuffs but was always happy to come back. I avoid forceful writing. Whenever I have something in my mind, I try to present to all of you. Writer’s block is not a misfortune. There might me several reasons making writers to go in the writer’s block, from personal to professional etc. But there is always a chance for come back. So, what is your take on writer’s block? Have you ever been in the writer’s block? Do share your views and experience…

– Ashish Kumar

Book Review – An Ode to Life – Tajammul Kothari



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Poetry is an art and when you pen down your emotions, feelings and experience with words which can be related to the readers, you become an artist. Writers write in different genre and each has its own style and taste. This blog post is about one of my blogger friend who gave me a chance to go through his debut book titled, “An Ode to Life” containing his collection of poems. My friend Tajammul Kothari is the author of this book and it takes me immense pleasure to write the review for his debut book. I would also like to express my apologies to him as I am writing this book review post after one half years of publication as I was quite involved with my studies and other aspects. Apologies for the same Tajammul. The writer is available at his blog titled Worldly Realization. Kindly visit his blog for his beautiful work.

For all poem lovers including me, this book, An Ode to Life is a gem and is a collection of poems that highlights the different stages in the journey of life. Life has many layers and this book contains several poems depicting different stages of life. The writer has even written a thank you poem titled “A Big Thank you” to all the readers which is a lovely read and I really liked this. The book contains beautiful literary pieces with simple words and in a lucid manner. I firmly believe the one who read will definitely find it worth. The book contains poems of various genres like inspirational, romantic, sad etc. The writer in depth can be seen from an extract of his poem ,“The Road” which says:

 A long winding road called life

In each and every turn there is a surprise

Bright paths to guide you aright or

Dark alleys that hinder your sight

The book also contains romantic poems. I became really impressed the way he has expressed love in one of his poem titled “Love is to Stay” which says:

You can pierce a dagger deep inside

And break this feeble heart of mine

You can kill me with your words unkind

But you can’t murder the love

The sentence “You can’t murder love” is more than enough to say what love is. This is amazing and you will find many such kind of poems with beautiful stanzas in his book and I am sure you will love it. Poetry has its own taste and this book is really worth to read.

The book is available at following:

I would like to congratulate him for getting his work published and also like to thank him for giving me an opportunity to go through his literary pieces and I hope he will continue to offer the readers with his beautiful work in future as well in the form of his writing.

Ashish Kumar

What should I do?


Tired of these endless game.
I don’t have any shame.
I reside in darkness.
I eat fruits which are sweetless.
Becoming slowly and slowly frustrated.
My mind is irritated.

My pain is severe.
I am having fever.
I have no strength left for fight.
When I will be again delight?
Hoping for that moment to come soon.
I am waiting for that noon.
But for the present, “WHAT SHOULD I DO ???”

Ashish Kumar

Few Quotes – 12


 

Hi all. Hope all are doing well and must be busy with preparing for upcoming Diwali. I would like to wish all of you a very Happy Diwali in advance. 🙂  After a big gap of more than one and half years, I am posting few of my quotes today. My last post on quotations was in January 2016. Sorry for not posting my quotes for such a long time. I hope these quotes which are related to somewhat what we call work-life balance would be liked by you all. Read, enjoy and share your thoughts on these quotes.

  • Work is never a problem. It’s the people who creates problem in work.
  • Never mix your professional life with your personal life.
  • Work never ends but life does.

Ashish Kumar