Solitude – Pleasure or pain?



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Solitude is one the situations which often makes or break confidence, relations, mindset, perception etc. It is the state or situation where one feels alone or lonely. Human nature wants to be known and admired and solitude is just opposite where one finds himself to be detached from everyone. The reason of being felt lonely can be many like not getting what desired, love failure, introvert nature, jealousy etc. The repercussion of solitude is sometimes harsh even leading to suicidal death which is startling and extreme. One of the main consequences of solitude is that people lose hope and get depressed. Losing hope is that state where one finds nothing positive for himself and negative vibes starts accumulating in mind.

Feeling of loneliness is not new and one feels lonely several times in life. Some of the common reasons behind solitude are love failure, failure in innovating something new, break up in the relationships etc. If you are a song lover, you might have came across many songs which are solely based on solitude. When people fail in love, they think they are nowhere and they are the one who finds themselves the loneliest person in world. When someone resigns from his job because he doesn’t liked it, it also gives a lonely feeling till he finds a suitable job as per his interest. When there is a misunderstanding which leads to fight between family members and all are members are against you, solitude again finds a place. There are many other circumstances where one encounters solitude in his/her life. All these are part of life and should be taken as an experience.

Life has many aspects and solitude or feeling of loneliness is one of them which can be a pleasure or pain. Surprised to see how it can be a pleasure? Yes it can be a pleasure if one takes this as an opportunity. Generally, people consider solitude as a pain. It is a pain if one thinks it in that way and can be a pleasure as well if you have guts to convert that pain into pleasure which is difficult but not impossible. One should think in a different way and should take solitude as an opportunity. Solitude is that situation where one finds himself to be detached from rest of the world.  When you are detached, you have enough time to think and rejuvenate yourself. Surprised??? Solitude gives you a chance to talk to yourself what we call as introspection and introspection leads to creativity and innovation. When you introspect, you are able to find the loopholes and can start from scratch or can find the better way round which can give fruitful results. Solitude also gives you the chance to know your inner strength, how strong you are and how you are going to manage trying circumstances. All these counts and makes you much stronger than before. Converting solitude into an opportunity is difficult but not impossible. Solitude indeed gives you a chance to prove yourself and come back with smiling face post debacle, if any.  The only thing matter is how one takes this situation, either positive or negative. Choice has to be made.

It takes time to get rid of the bad moments where one finds himself detached but should not allow prolong accumulation of negative vibes which ultimately leads to depression and frustration. Take time and start as nothing lasts forever.  If you keeps on thinking and thinking on what happened in past or past bad memories then how you will live in present and how will you secure your future? In my opinion, solitude is neither a disaster nor a debacle;  it’s a part of our life. Life has many layers, both good and bad. I too have been in solitude several times and was able to tackle which was a nice experience. Experience again is very important in life, both positive and negative which makes you a strong person which helps you in decision making. Remember one thing, if you feel lonely because of absence of people around you, your conscience and confidence still remains within you which are capable enough to convert negative into positive. What I would convey is take solitude not as a burden but spent some time and think and come back with smiling face. Lastly, I would like to share one of the famous quotes of Bob Marley.

You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.

Bob Marley

 

– Ashish Kumar

Why do I write?


Why do I write?
A question of which I never got an answer.
It gives satisfaction and pleasure.
Gives a chance to talk in leisure.
Even many think poets are mad.
They are not able to judge is it good or bad.

Why do I write?
I write as I love to do so.
Have no specific reason in doing so.
Walking in the streets of life.
I have found a good reason to survive.
Writing has the potential to change.
Requires the authors to manage.

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Why do I write?
No real reason.
Still an unanswered question.
I write to talk to myself.
One can convey his feelings to himself.
Writing power is infinite.
Rather than to remain finite.
It requires one to explore inner and outer world.
Once done, it can change the world.

Why do I write?
People say I am mad.
Yes I am mad…
Mad about writing.
Passionate about to think out of the academics.
Writing gives me inner satisfaction.
That requires giving no explanation.
Why do I write?
I write as I love to write…

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– Ashish Kumar

लिखते जा |


कुछ लिखने का जी करता है |
क्या लिखूं समझ नहीं आता है |
काम करते करते तन और मन थक जाता है |
फिर भी दिल लिखने को कहता है |
दिल को कैसे समझाऊं जो हर वक़्त धड़कता है |
पर तन और मन आराम करना चाहता है |
मन कहता है सो जा |
दिल कहता है लिखते जा…

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समय का चक्र तो हमेशा चलता है |
पर मनुष्य का जीवन तो रुकता है |
ज़िंदगी मे कई लोगों से मिलना होता है |
पर लिखने के लिए खुद से बात करना परता है |
लिखकर अत्यंत आनंद प्राप्त होता है |
लिखने के बाद मन भी खुश हो जाता है |
पर फिर भी ये लिखने से रोकता है |
मन कहता है सो जा  |
पर दिल कहता है लिखते जा |
और लिखते जा …

 – Ashish Kumar

Delicate Smile


When you gives your delicate smile.
Even the stone breaks with a smile.
Staring look from your face.
Makes me to always look on your face.

The opening of your mouth for talk.
Makes the way for never ending talk.
Sometimes giving a devastating look.
Makes me to have a forever look.

When you make me laugh loud.
That time I really feel proud.
Holding your hands for walk and talk.
I forget the journey of long walk.

The trust binds us forever.
Not aware whether we are made for each other.
As one day we will be detached.
Death is the ultimate truth.
I will miss you…
Your void will be felt.
Only memories will be kept.
Will miss your delicate smile.
Which compels even mountains to dance and joy.
As…
When you gives your delicate smile.
Even the stone breaks with a smile.

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– Ashish Kumar

The need of Introspection


In the present scenario of fast moving world, we often achieve many things and also lose something. There are situations when we miss something. The world is changing day by day and people are no more out of this changing world. Every time we are in hurry. Sometimes it works and sometimes it won’t. Life is too short to achieve everything. Many people wants to get more and more even though if it won’t fall in their domain. Sometimes greeds surpasses the values and ethics.

Life is always beautiful. Everything happens has purpose hidden behind it provided if we take it in a different way without losing patience. Loss of patience creates many problems and if patience is lost then we definitely go for doing things in a hurry which ultimately leads to damage. We meet several people in our day to day life and we never feel reluctant in pointing to others problems, their mistakes and their wrong deeds if any. But the thing is we should also give some time to analyse ourselves, the need of introspection, an important thing which we often miss.

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One of the most surprising things I have seen and experienced is that we all have time for our work, laughing and gossiping, indulging in blame – game etc. We always have time to spent on Facebook, twitter, bla bla…. and I have seen many addicted victims spending hours on these. I am not against on any of them as I am also a user of these. 🙂 The thing is we have 24 hours in a day so can’t we give at least some minutes to analyse ourselves , talk to ourselves and improve our own thinking ability, create new innovative idea that will refresh our mind and make us  a good human being.

As you know introspection means talking to ourselves and it has the power to change the mindset if done in a correct manner. Blaming on others and remembering others mistakes and pointing that is the general attitude of humans and is enjoyed a lot. One must give sometime to himself/herself as it gives you a chance to know yourself better and better. One can know himself only when he is able to give time to himself. Talking to ourselves gives a pleasant feeling and it is at this time only when we also accept our own mistakes. Yes no one is perfect and life is all about to improve ourselves and for that improvement , introspection is required.

If one is able to give at least 5 minutes also for introspection, life will be different, mind becomes sharp and if mind becomes sharp creativity and innovations can be done easily. It is just how we manage time in life. Introspection gives you the chance to discover the beautiful person hidden inside you. It allows you to find the special inside you. It gives you the ability to know your inner strength and explore yourself as much as you can. Introspection is not a big deal to implement. You don’t need electricity, laptop, mobile phones etc. for introspection. 🙂 The thing you need is “you only and I think…

You are present everywhere wherever you go. You  cannot leave yourself and go. So introspect ….

 

I would like to conclude this article with one of the finest quote of Swami Vivekananda and this is one of my favourite quite which perfectly describes the need of introspection…

Talk to yourself once in a day… Otherwise you may miss meeting an excellent person in this world.                                                           – Swami Vivekananda

 

So introspect yourself and explore the hidden strength inside you…

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– Ashish Kumar