Solitude – Pleasure or pain?



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Solitude is one the situations which often makes or break confidence, relations, mindset, perception etc. It is the state or situation where one feels alone or lonely. Human nature wants to be known and admired and solitude is just opposite where one finds himself to be detached from everyone. The reason of being felt lonely can be many like not getting what desired, love failure, introvert nature, jealousy etc. The repercussion of solitude is sometimes harsh even leading to suicidal death which is startling and extreme. One of the main consequences of solitude is that people lose hope and get depressed. Losing hope is that state where one finds nothing positive for himself and negative vibes starts accumulating in mind.

Feeling of loneliness is not new and one feels lonely several times in life. Some of the common reasons behind solitude are love failure, failure in innovating something new, break up in the relationships etc. If you are a song lover, you might have came across many songs which are solely based on solitude. When people fail in love, they think they are nowhere and they are the one who finds themselves the loneliest person in world. When someone resigns from his job because he doesn’t liked it, it also gives a lonely feeling till he finds a suitable job as per his interest. When there is a misunderstanding which leads to fight between family members and all are members are against you, solitude again finds a place. There are many other circumstances where one encounters solitude in his/her life. All these are part of life and should be taken as an experience.

Life has many aspects and solitude or feeling of loneliness is one of them which can be a pleasure or pain. Surprised to see how it can be a pleasure? Yes it can be a pleasure if one takes this as an opportunity. Generally, people consider solitude as a pain. It is a pain if one thinks it in that way and can be a pleasure as well if you have guts to convert that pain into pleasure which is difficult but not impossible. One should think in a different way and should take solitude as an opportunity. Solitude is that situation where one finds himself to be detached from rest of the world.  When you are detached, you have enough time to think and rejuvenate yourself. Surprised??? Solitude gives you a chance to talk to yourself what we call as introspection and introspection leads to creativity and innovation. When you introspect, you are able to find the loopholes and can start from scratch or can find the better way round which can give fruitful results. Solitude also gives you the chance to know your inner strength, how strong you are and how you are going to manage trying circumstances. All these counts and makes you much stronger than before. Converting solitude into an opportunity is difficult but not impossible. Solitude indeed gives you a chance to prove yourself and come back with smiling face post debacle, if any.  The only thing matter is how one takes this situation, either positive or negative. Choice has to be made.

It takes time to get rid of the bad moments where one finds himself detached but should not allow prolong accumulation of negative vibes which ultimately leads to depression and frustration. Take time and start as nothing lasts forever.  If you keeps on thinking and thinking on what happened in past or past bad memories then how you will live in present and how will you secure your future? In my opinion, solitude is neither a disaster nor a debacle;  it’s a part of our life. Life has many layers, both good and bad. I too have been in solitude several times and was able to tackle which was a nice experience. Experience again is very important in life, both positive and negative which makes you a strong person which helps you in decision making. Remember one thing, if you feel lonely because of absence of people around you, your conscience and confidence still remains within you which are capable enough to convert negative into positive. What I would convey is take solitude not as a burden but spent some time and think and come back with smiling face. Lastly, I would like to share one of the famous quotes of Bob Marley.

You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.

Bob Marley

 

– Ashish Kumar

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Ignoring the beauty of life…


 

Looking at every aspect of life.
We do ignore the beauty of life.
During the midst of happy and sad.
We really become, sometimes mad.
Chasing the one which we don’t need.
Lands us in situation of greed.
Even the heart says it is wrong.
We indulge in doing the wrong.
Involving in the thorny path.
We ignore the present golden path.
Instead of finding the positive.
We do find negatives in positive.
Leaving the glorious beauty aside.
We move towards the unhealthy side.

One needs to have introspection.
Instead of indulging in conspiration.
Life has several layers to come.
Good or bad, we need to overcome.
During the sole honeymoon period.
We forget the struggle period.
One should learn from the mistakes of past.
Rather than blaming the past.
The mindset needs to be changed.
Then only we can bring a change.
Harsh reality still persists.
As…
Looking at every aspect of life.
We do ignore the beauty of life.
Ignore the beauty of life.

– Ashish Kumar

Convert into positive…


Life has no reason to cry.
It is we who make ourselves cry.
The way we perceive things is important.
Rather than to make our mind insolvent.
Why we always think negative?
Better to convert into positive.
Ups and downs are part of life.
They are necessary to stand and survive.
We become happy when seeing good news.
What happens when it comes for bad news?
Converting bad to good is a challenge.
It is we who have to manage.
It’s time to be practical.
Instead of being philosophical.
Thinking in the right direction.
One will reach the destination.
Stop indulging in blame game.
Put the effort and win the game.
It can be done if executed properly.
This can be achieved if planned properly.
Why we always think negative?
The question is still alive…
Instead of thinking negative.
Approach should be converting  to positive.
Converting to positive.

Ashish Kumar

Doing the karma…


Every time I see a good sign.
It ends with a negative time.
During the midst of day and night.
I never had a time with positive light.
Darkness spread all the way around.
Momentarily losing my sound.
Betrayal, trust broke.
Hope ended in a sudden stroke.
No regrets what I have done for others and what others had done.
I am just doing the karma.

Lost in the darkest side of my own shadow.
Searching for a place which is at least hollow.
Heart wrenched and soul teared.
Repetition of the same, I always feared.
Eyes became watery and face was red.
Walking alone, I was a living dead.
Swallowed everything in the deep of my heart.
Its true from inside and outside, I was hurt.
No complain for all the mess which have come.
I am just doing the karma.

Unwanted situations coming again and again.
Its time for me to convert this to gain.
Reality needs to be accepted.
Rather than to remain frustrated.
Time will change this is for sure.
For the present I need to assure.
No regrets for all the pains which have come.
I am just doing the karma.
Walking on the path of dharma.
I am just doing the karma.
Just doing the karma.

karma

– Ashish Kumar

…THE SPECIAL…


There is always something special.
Finding that special is very crucial.
Life has many roles to play.
Depends on how we take in our way.

Trying to achieve perfection.
One should have a positive perception.
Life will never be without obstacle.
It is we only who have to tackle.

Its better to crush the negative thinking.
Generate a path with creative thinking.
Glow like stars and sun.
Don’t rest even if you have to burn.
It is possible to achieve the dream.
Rather than just seeing the dream.
Question is how?
Answer lies in us.
As…
There is always something special.
Finding that special is very crucial.

special

– Ashish Kumar