Learn to Unlearn



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Learning is a continuous process and we learn from our life which consists of ups and downs. We learn from our experience and our mistakes which plays drastic role in shaping our personality and our future. Life is full of startling moments and frankly speaking, this moment teaches us a lot. Be it good or bad, meets our expectations or not, those moments plays a significant role in life. What we read in our academics and what we learn from our work experience are crucial indeed but one should be ready to unlearn few things. Confused? What it means is, one should also try not to learn what he is willing to learn and on the other side, one should also unlearn which he had already learnt. Unlearning means, to discard something from your memory which you learnt previously. Let us see few things which one should try to unlearn:

  • Bad Habits: We learn many habits in our life easily and whether to continue with those habits is a choice. Habits can be good and bad and it’s better to unlearn the bad habits and keep the good habits. Again, one should also unlearn the habit of willing to learn the bad things. Put it simply, if one is willing to learnt some bad habits, he should unlearn his habit of learning bad habits.
  • Overconfidence: Confidence is required and necessary in our life but overconfidence can be dangerous. Being confident enough is good but one should not be overconfident as it leads to opposite results sometimes. Hence, it’s better to unlearn being overconfident.
  • Unrealistic: Be realistic in nature and set your standards as per your convenience. Simply stated, be pragmatic and unlearn being unrealistic.
  • Pretending; This is one of the most important things many possess which should be unlearned. Many people have the habit of pretending themselves to be smart in many aspects, be it academics or in day to life. In fact, many will indulge unnecessarily and start their knowledge sharing without being requested. Also, many people have the habit of late sitting in office pretending themselves to be very occupied with work. Many also do late sitting in order to get attention from their superiors. What they do by late sitting is a question mark. No doubt, if it is required sometimes late sitting should be done depending on the nature and complexity and emergency of work. But doing late sitting just to show-case is not correct. “Late sitting should not be considered as virtue.” There are several other aspects of pretending or show-casing which should be unlearned. Be natural in your work and behavior.
  • Claiming to be Omniscient: Here comes one more interesting thing which requires attention. Many people have the habit of claiming themselves to be omniscient, meaning they know everything. These people are so well self-motivated and self-proclaimed that they think what they are saying is always correct and no one knows more than what he knows. This is where ego and attitude starts growing and ultimately it reaches a stage where self-proclaimed omniscient person doesn’t considers and listens to others as what he thinks is only right. These people find difficult to get respected.  Nobody is perfect  in this world and hence, unlearn claiming to be omniscient.
  • Critic: It’s better not to criticize on everything and every time. Criticize only if it is requires and that too in a constructive manner. Criticism should never be made a habit and hence, unlearn being a critic. I have already discussed in my previous article titled, Unnecessary Criticism and hence will keep it short.

Learning is very important and in my opinion learning to unlearn few things is also important. There can be many other aspects of unlearning apart from what I have shared as the above list is not exhaustive. There might be one question in your mind and that is, which one is difficult; learn or learn to unlearn? The answer to this question is difficult and it is subjective. However, with my little experience, I think unlearning is difficult than learning or learning to unlearn is difficult. What is your take on unlearning and which one  is more difficult? Do share your views. 🙂 🙂

– Ashish Kumar

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An Incomplete Poem


One day I thought of writing a poem.
After a big gap of many months.
Thought came and so do words.
I tried to pen down my words.
Mind was full of feelings and emotions.
I was trying to portray my inner situation.
Blurred in the midst of day and night.
I was writing the journey of my life.

Moving the pen slowly on the paper.
I started to describe my feelings on paper.
The journey which was belligerent and haunted.
Made me to write which needs to be trusted.
I gave my all effort to depict the suffering.
Slowly tears came while recalling.
During the course of the ups and downs.
I did have nervous breakdown.
Relationships became trading port.
I was left without any support.
Recalling those memoirs while writing.
My hand and brain were shivering.
I took a break for a while.
Hoping to smile while I write.

Couple of hours passed and I sat again to write.
Moving into deep of my heart to portray that drive.
Powerful emotions and strong words were chosen.
Unable to phrase the sentence, the poem was left open.
The poem was incomplete and I was shocked.
Made me to realize, I entered the writer’s block.
Feelings, emotions and scenes everything I have selected.
The poem which I started to write never completed.
I look towards my literary piece of work.
Hoping to complete that work.
As I started to write and complete the poem.
Made me to feel, it’s an incomplete poem.

 – Ashish Kumar

Dream night


I slept one night with positive vibes.

Dream came with negative vibes.

My entire structure collapsed.

It was difficult to find way to survive.

I saw myself struggling a lot.

Trying to build a new plot.

Construction started with full effort.

That also vanished due to a sudden storm.

There was nothing left to gain.

I was suffering with severe pain.

Crying from inside and outside.

I was fighting in my dream night.

Left alone in the curse of life.

I was finding some ray of light.

Barking words coming from everywhere.

Nothing is left anywhere.

Humanity killed and humans are alive.

That’s the real world I must realize.

People won’t be sympathetic.

Better I should become pragmatic.

Suddenly I woke up from my dream.

Surprised to know what I saw in the dream.

Dream gave me one lesson.

Don’t give up but fight with your passion.

What I learnt is what I shared.

Dream taught me which I should care.

It was a nice morning looking at the rising sun.

Learning to move ahead with hope of none.

Humans have forgotten humanity.

Sorry to say but that’s the reality.

I saw that dream long ago.

It gave me courage to go and get go.

The dream which I saw that night,

where I was fighting in my dream night.

It became my dream night which gave me courage to fight.

Ashish Kumar

Dawn to dusk…


Coming from dawn to dusk.

Life seems sometimes like dust.

Few incidents have ever lasting impact.

It’s difficult to keep things intact.

What to do and what not?

How to remove the challenging knot?

Twists and turns are coming around.

Choice has to be made…

Either to face or leave the ground.

Quiting is not the solution it seems.

Better to face it to fulfill the dream.

Darkness will be here and there.

Light will definitely emerge somewhere.

Once decided, better to go ahead.

Not required to waste time by scratching the head.

What will happen will happen.

This doesn’t make life misshapen.

Consistent effort is required from dawn to dusk.

That will eradicate the dust.

While facing the struggles and challenges.

One may think of losing the patience.

And life may seems like dust.

Consistent effort is required from dawn to dusk.

That will eradicate the dust.

Ashish Kumar

Welcome 2019


A warm welcome to the new year, 2019. As we have entered into a new year, I hope everything goes well with everyone in this new year. Just wanted to wish all of you a very happy new year. May God fulfill all your upcoming desires in this year with smiling faces. 🤗😅

One of the important aspects of the new year is to make a new year resolution and I have always failed in making the same. Every year, my new year resolution remains the same i.e to make a new year resolution. Confused? 🙄🤔 I have always failed in making new year resolution and hence on every new year eve, my new year resolution is to make a new year resolution. 😕😏 But this year my wish is to work on my novel and complete it and I am hopeful of doing so. 🤗

Once again, I wish all of you a very happy new year. Do share your new year resolution or wish which you want to accomplish. God bless you all. Stay tuned for my posts… 😊😃

Ashish Kumar

Oh my dear…


Roses are red.
The sky is blue.
Oh my dear…
I think, I love you.

Mind is fresh.
The day I saw you.
Oh my dear…
I think, I do love you.

You make me feel joy.
We both enjoy.
You became my life.
I became your life.
This reason is enough.
For both of us to survive.
How this happened?
I have no clue.
Oh my dear…
I love you.

The day you entered in my life.
Life became more than a life.
You wanted to become my wife.
I realized, it was a lie.
When you stared at me.
Scolded brutally and badly.
I understood, everything was illusion.
Made me to go in depression.
Both were happy as the time passed.
I now realize, you were doing time pass.
Playing is good but not with heart.
At the end, it surely hurts.
Heart broke and soul collapsed.
You are not the right one, I did realized.
Collected the broken pieces of heart.
As it stuck like glue.
Oh my dear…
I hate you.
I do hate you…

– Ashish Kumar

 

Learn from mistake…


Learn from the mistake.
What if you have to take a retake.
Mistakes are part of live.
Giving you a chance to revive.
Welcome the darkness with positive attitude.
Enjoying the moments should be the attitude.

Learn from the mistake.
Take risk, don’t hesitate.
Do well and be well.
Hence, all will be well.
Leave the confusion aside.
Move ahead in order to rise.

Learn from the mistake.
What if you have to take a retake.
Mistakes are essential.
It helps in finding your potential.
Potential to know your flaws.
Hence, helping to rectify your flaws.
Don’t fear and keep trying.
Take time and keep rising…

Ashish Kumar