Solitude – Pleasure or pain?



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Solitude is one the situations which often makes or break confidence, relations, mindset, perception etc. It is the state or situation where one feels alone or lonely. Human nature wants to be known and admired and solitude is just opposite where one finds himself to be detached from everyone. The reason of being felt lonely can be many like not getting what desired, love failure, introvert nature, jealousy etc. The repercussion of solitude is sometimes harsh even leading to suicidal death which is startling and extreme. One of the main consequences of solitude is that people lose hope and get depressed. Losing hope is that state where one finds nothing positive for himself and negative vibes starts accumulating in mind.

Feeling of loneliness is not new and one feels lonely several times in life. Some of the common reasons behind solitude are love failure, failure in innovating something new, break up in the relationships etc. If you are a song lover, you might have came across many songs which are solely based on solitude. When people fail in love, they think they are nowhere and they are the one who finds themselves the loneliest person in world. When someone resigns from his job because he doesn’t liked it, it also gives a lonely feeling till he finds a suitable job as per his interest. When there is a misunderstanding which leads to fight between family members and all are members are against you, solitude again finds a place. There are many other circumstances where one encounters solitude in his/her life. All these are part of life and should be taken as an experience.

Life has many aspects and solitude or feeling of loneliness is one of them which can be a pleasure or pain. Surprised to see how it can be a pleasure? Yes it can be a pleasure if one takes this as an opportunity. Generally, people consider solitude as a pain. It is a pain if one thinks it in that way and can be a pleasure as well if you have guts to convert that pain into pleasure which is difficult but not impossible. One should think in a different way and should take solitude as an opportunity. Solitude is that situation where one finds himself to be detached from rest of the world.  When you are detached, you have enough time to think and rejuvenate yourself. Surprised??? Solitude gives you a chance to talk to yourself what we call as introspection and introspection leads to creativity and innovation. When you introspect, you are able to find the loopholes and can start from scratch or can find the better way round which can give fruitful results. Solitude also gives you the chance to know your inner strength, how strong you are and how you are going to manage trying circumstances. All these counts and makes you much stronger than before. Converting solitude into an opportunity is difficult but not impossible. Solitude indeed gives you a chance to prove yourself and come back with smiling face post debacle, if any.  The only thing matter is how one takes this situation, either positive or negative. Choice has to be made.

It takes time to get rid of the bad moments where one finds himself detached but should not allow prolong accumulation of negative vibes which ultimately leads to depression and frustration. Take time and start as nothing lasts forever.  If you keeps on thinking and thinking on what happened in past or past bad memories then how you will live in present and how will you secure your future? In my opinion, solitude is neither a disaster nor a debacle;  it’s a part of our life. Life has many layers, both good and bad. I too have been in solitude several times and was able to tackle which was a nice experience. Experience again is very important in life, both positive and negative which makes you a strong person which helps you in decision making. Remember one thing, if you feel lonely because of absence of people around you, your conscience and confidence still remains within you which are capable enough to convert negative into positive. What I would convey is take solitude not as a burden but spent some time and think and come back with smiling face. Lastly, I would like to share one of the famous quotes of Bob Marley.

You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.

Bob Marley

 

– Ashish Kumar

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Accidental deaths and suicide – A serious concern



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Death is certain and it is the ultimate truth. One will die for sure after birth. Accidental deaths and suicidal deaths are unfortunate. There are several problems that India is facing like inflation, corruption, unemployment etc. People die due to several reasons like heart attack, cancer, murder, natural disaster, poverty, accidents, suicide etc.

Death due to accidents and suicide is unfortunate. But it doesn’t mean that death due to other causes is fortunate. This article highlights the accidental deaths and suicidal deaths in India. In my previous article, I have addressed the issue of suicide. It is surprising that instead of several awareness campaigns, people are dying due to accidents. Let’s look at the statistics of accidental deaths and suicides from 2011 to 2015 which is given in the following table.

Table 1: Accidental deaths and suicidal deaths in India
Year Accidental deaths Suicidal deaths
2011 390884 135585
2012 394982 135445
2013 400517 134799
2014 451757 131666
2015 413457 133623
Source: National Crime Record Bureau (NCRB), Ministry of Home Affairs, Government of India

From the above table, the accidentals deaths and suicide does not have an increasing/decreasing pattern. Accidental deaths were most in 2014 which was 451757 and suicidal deaths were most in 2011, reporting to 135585. Suicidal deaths decreased from 2011 to 2014 but again increased in 2015. It is surprising to see that the number of suicides in India is more than a lakh per year. There can be several reasons for suicides like poverty, farmer suicides, love failure, not getting what desired, exam failure, frustration, depression etc.

The number of accidental deaths is more than 4 lakh in a year which is alarming. What can be the root cause of accidents? Accident does not only mean road accident. Road accident is one of the type of accident. Broadly accident can be classified as natural calamity and unnatural causes. Natural calamity includes flood, earthquake, landslide, cyclone, avalanche etc. Unnatural cause includes air crash, fire, collapse of structure, explosion, traffic accident, stampede, factory/machine accidents, drowning etc. An accidental death due to natural calamity is much less than those of unnatural causes. The below table illustrates the accidental deaths due to natural and top five unnatural causes from 2011 to 2015.

Table 2: Accidental deaths due to Natural and Unnatural causes
S.No Cause of death 2011 2012 2013 2014 2015
1. Natural Calamity 23690 22960 22759 20201 10510
2. Unnatural Causes
i)                    Drowning 29708 27558 30041 29903 29822
ii)                  Sudden Deaths 26649 28961 31278 26526 35023
iii)                Poisoning 29478 30748 29249 20587 26173
iv)                Traffic Accident 165072 168301 166506 169107 177423
v)                  Fire 24576 23281 22177 19513 17700
Source: National Crime Record Bureau (NCRB), Ministry of Home Affairs, Government of India

 

As it can be inferred from the above table, deaths due to unnatural cause is higher than the natural calamity. The five unnatural cause depicted in the above table are drowning, sudden deaths, poisoning, traffic accident and fire. Of the five major causes, traffic accident accounts for the highest number of deaths which is more than one and half lakh. This makes one thing clear that road traffic accidents is a serious issue prevailing in India. It can be seen that road traffic accident have increased in these five years. It resulted in 177423 deaths in the year 2015. What can be the main reason behind such traffic deaths? Some of the reasons can be:

  • Not obeying the traffic rules.
  • Driving the vehicle above the specified speed limit.
  • Crossing the road without looking at the signal.
  • Driving vehicle in hurry, tension, depression.
  • Drinking while driving (drink and drive) etc.

The other causes of accidental deaths like fire, poisoning, drowning, etc also accounts for major proportion. Natural calamity is beyond our control but what about the deaths due to unnatural causes and suicides? If you combine the accidental deaths and suicidal deaths, it is more than 4.5 lakh per year. This figure is very high and startling. Isn’t it a big jolt for all of us ???

Generally, people ignore the accidental death. Many people drive ruthlessly on road to pretend themselves to be the hero of an action movie but they don’t think for a while that such driving may harm others on road and themselves as well. Speedy driving has become a fashion in India which is not feasible at all. What is your opinion on such accidental deaths and suicides in India ? What is the major cause behind such deaths and what should be done in order to curb such miss-happenings? Do share your views…

– Ashish Kumar

…THE FIRE…


      

      A fire is burning.
Making the scope of big hope.
But before reaching its destination.
Suddenly came to an end, all the scope.

 

 

 

Again it started with lots of determination.
Facing happily all the irking situation.
Withstanding his decision to continue to burn.
Obstacles arriving at every junction.
Depression coming many times.
Frustration trying to pull him down.
He wanted to cry but convinced himself by saying ” I WILL NOT CRY BUT TEARS WILL FALL.
And one day…
God came for his help but he refused to take any favor of him.
God asked why???
He replied : ” I DON’T BELIEVE IN GOD  but… I like to go to temple and spend time there. ”

Many storm came and the fire is still burning.
Rainfall, snowfall had failed to do much and he is still standing. 

Underestimating all those taunting words of stepping down because…
he has full faith to reach its crown.

And… The fire is still burning.

Fire! Keep burning…

– Ashish kumar

…DEDICATION…


A day will come.

When a light will burn in water.

Slowly and slowly burning all the obstacles.

Cutting the motion of all the dead hopes.

Preparing for a big journey by a new slope.

 

A ray of light coming from dark.

Making a new path instead of having so many people’s bark.

Sending the messages to the nerves.

So that not to become nervous.

 

Frustration, depression are out of service…

The only thing left is ” dedication”…

 

 

 

 

 

– by Ashish kumar