Shayari – 2


ज़िन्दगी इक किताब है।

अभी तो आपने सिर्फ कवर पेज देखी है।

Ashish Kumar

Note: This is the 200th post on this blog… Thank you all for your love and support… 🙏🙏😂🤗

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Behavioral Knowledge



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One of the important characteristics of any person is his behavior which is an important indicator of personality. What needs to be said and the manner in which it needs to be conveyed is important. Behavior is indeed a major factor or better to say it is a deciding factor in almost all aspects of life. Sometimes it is said that knowledge is important but behavioral knowledge is most important. Knowledge doesn’t mean what one learns from books but it is a combination of bookish knowledge and behavioral knowledge. Behavioral knowledge is what one learns from his experience, day to day work, interacting with people etc. Behavior also shapes one’s character which, if lost is a disaster itself.

Life is full of ups and downs. When one achieves something, it is natural to be happy and feel proud. On the opposite side, failure disappoints us leading to depression and frustration in some cases. We always desire to achieve best in our life with our efforts and skills. When one desires to be different and make a difference, behavior does matter. World is full of amazing people having different behavior and it plays an important role in shaping our life. How we behave decides our fate as well. There are many aspects of behavioral knowledge which I have discussed below:

  • Criticism: Criticize only when it is required and necessary. Criticizing others is the easiest thing one can do. It doesn’t take much to criticize others but repercussion may be drastic. Criticism is also a self defense tool. It is also said that being a critic is the easiest thing one can do. Criticism is frequently used everywhere, be it in job or not. In fact, managers in the organizations find various ways to criticize their subordinates. Many criticize just to show their power which is not acceptable at all. There are cases also where unnecessary criticism ended up in belligerent situation. Nobody will tolerate to be criticized when there is no fault from his side. Hence, criticize only when it is required. Constructive criticism should be welcomed and unnecessary criticism must be avoided. In fact, in his famous book titled, “How to win friends and influence people”, the author, Dale Carnegie had suggested not to criticize and condemn.
  • Appreciation: One should appreciate others if he deserves. There is no shame in appreciating others work but unfortunately this practice is not followed. There are hardly few who genuinely appreciate others work and feel happy for their achievement. The reason can be many and one of them is the feeling of jealously. It has been observed that people avoid appreciating other because they feel jealous which should not be the case. Appreciation is a tool of motivation. If you appreciate other, you will be appreciated in return. It is a courtesy which shows your respect and recognition for others. You will not lose anything if you appreciate but you will gain respect from the one whom you appreciated.
  • Judgmental: No doubt, people are judgmental and they pass their judgment. What they conclude in the form of their judgement is what they perceive. They conclude without any analysis. Do we possess enough knowledge to judge others or do we have right to pass judgement? Ask this question before giving your judgement. Many people pass their view suddenly and declare the end result. This can be understood by an example. Suppose a student has completed his higher secondary education and decides to go for career in engineering having firm faith in him that he can pursue engineering and do well in his career but one of the family members were not convinced with his choice as there were no engineers from their family in the past. They bluntly said you cannot become an engineer as none from our family has yet become and hence choose some other career. They simply passed their judgement. Take other example, people do judge with what you eat and wear. People do judge with status symbol or better to say have materialistic approach towards others. Poor people are the best example. Dr APJ Abdul Kalam was born in very poor family and he used to sell newspapers in his childhood to run the family and to bear his expenses for study. People used to pass various comments and judgement on Kalam’s study and his future but the rest is history as he became the Missile Man of India and later the President of India.  There are many other examples where you can come up with such situation. Hence, beware before passing any judgement as you never know where that person will be in future whom you are passing your judgement.  Give suggestions which are welcomed but don’t give your judgement which may be reversed in future.
  • Pragmatic: One should be pragmatic which means being practical. Behave and decide as per the prevailing situation. Be practical enough to realize the complexity of life and be flexible enough to cope up with the changes. Behave as per the situation. Be realistic in your approach.
  • Empathy: Empathy means putting yourself in others situation. It is often said, one should have empathy for others. If someone is in problem, understand their problem and help them if they need but don’t make fool of him. Put it simply, one can feel the pain of hunger only when he has not eaten for few days or else he will never know what hunger means. Similarly, if someone is suffering from any problems, understand it and help him if he asks but don’t make fun of his problem. There are many who enjoys a lot when they see others are suffering from any miss happening which is not at all right. If you enjoy and make fun out of others issues and problems, you may encounter such scenes in your life as well. Don’t laugh on others problems instead have some empathy. Empathetic behavior is very important which is missing now a day. Microsoft CEO Satya Nadella, in his book titled “Hit Refresh” has insisted and recommended empathy a lot and in any organization, managers must have empathy for their subordinates. Empathy reflects sense of caring attitude which is a kind of motivation. Employee should feel that the management and the organization do care for them.
  • Support: Support is as important as any other thing for anyone. Be it mental or monetary, support is required at some part in life. If you can’t support, don’t criticize as well. Support is not help as it is usually seen. Support means you are standing behind someone whom you trust or understand. There are times when you have to take tough decisions in life but there is no one to support you. That time, if you get anyone who is in support of you and taking your side, it is a kind of energy-booster. It also requires courage to support.
  • Learn: Learning is a continuous process. Don’t consider yourself to be an omniscient person. Life is the best teacher and it teaches us from situation, either good or bad which we experience in our life. Mistakes are part of life and one should learn from the mistakes. Technical or non-technical, learning gives you the result at some point in life. People generally become hopeless in difficult situation but tackling those situations is also a kind of learning. Confused? If you can tackle challenges in life, you have learned to face challenges which ultimately help you in decision making which is very crucial. Having said this, one should also learn to unlearn. What needs to be unlearned is a question? To put simply, learn to unlearn bad attitude and ego. Keep yourself updated and don’t learn those things which needs to be unlearned. Every people has something unique and one should learn from others as well. Learn the positive aspect and unlearn the negative ones.  Learn to discover your strength which you possess. One of the best method of learning yourself is introspection which gives you chance to talk to yourself and discover your areas where it requires improvement. Introspect at least once in a day or in a week as it is a game changer. The essence of introspection can be felt by one of the famous quotes of Swami Vivekananda which says, “Talk to yourself at least once in a day, otherwise you may miss a meeting with an excellent person in this world.”
  • Give and take respect: Respect is the end result what you get from your behavioral knowledge. It is that thing which may or may not have any monetary value but definitely have some recognition which you have earned from others. When you are respected, you have value and your words will have more weightage. Having said this, respect is earned and cannot be purchased and it can be only earned by your behavior which have many aspects discussed in above points like criticism, appreciation, empathy etc. You have to respect others to get respected. Be calm and polite. Respect others opinion as well and don’t force your opinion on others unless it is extremely required. One can purchase lot of stuffs and earn lot of money but may not earn respect. It totally depends on how we behave and how we listen and respect others as well.

Knowledge is necessary part of life and behavioral knowledge is a kind of value addition which shapes one’s personality and character. The various aspects of behavioral knowledge which I shared above is my personal thinking and the list is not exhaustive. What I have thought is important as far is behavior is concerned and that too in the form of knowledge, I tried to share in this article.  In my opinion, behavior is as important as any other thing. Be it work, home or any other place, behavior decides many things in our life. What to say and what not to say is important and crucial. Bad behavior creates problem at the end and it is we who need to decide how to behave as it decides our fate as well. Let me summarize some of the take away from the above discussion:

  • Don’t criticize. If required, approach should be Constructive Criticism.
  • Appreciate others work
  • Don’t pass judgement. Give suggestions if required.
  • Be pragmatic
  • Keep learning from your experiences and mistakes
  • Be empathetic
  • Give respect

I was having this theme in my mind from many months but finally though of writing this article on behavioral aspect of knowledge or what I say, Behavioral Knowledge. What’s your take on behavior? Is behavior plays important part in our life? Does behavior shapes our personality and character? Please share your views…. 🙂 🙂

– Ashish Kumar

Book Review – An Ode to Life – Tajammul Kothari



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Poetry is an art and when you pen down your emotions, feelings and experience with words which can be related to the readers, you become an artist. Writers write in different genre and each has its own style and taste. This blog post is about one of my blogger friend who gave me a chance to go through his debut book titled, “An Ode to Life” containing his collection of poems. My friend Tajammul Kothari is the author of this book and it takes me immense pleasure to write the review for his debut book. I would also like to express my apologies to him as I am writing this book review post after one half years of publication as I was quite involved with my studies and other aspects. Apologies for the same Tajammul. The writer is available at his blog titled Worldly Realization. Kindly visit his blog for his beautiful work.

For all poem lovers including me, this book, An Ode to Life is a gem and is a collection of poems that highlights the different stages in the journey of life. Life has many layers and this book contains several poems depicting different stages of life. The writer has even written a thank you poem titled “A Big Thank you” to all the readers which is a lovely read and I really liked this. The book contains beautiful literary pieces with simple words and in a lucid manner. I firmly believe the one who read will definitely find it worth. The book contains poems of various genres like inspirational, romantic, sad etc. The writer in depth can be seen from an extract of his poem ,“The Road” which says:

 A long winding road called life

In each and every turn there is a surprise

Bright paths to guide you aright or

Dark alleys that hinder your sight

The book also contains romantic poems. I became really impressed the way he has expressed love in one of his poem titled “Love is to Stay” which says:

You can pierce a dagger deep inside

And break this feeble heart of mine

You can kill me with your words unkind

But you can’t murder the love

The sentence “You can’t murder love” is more than enough to say what love is. This is amazing and you will find many such kind of poems with beautiful stanzas in his book and I am sure you will love it. Poetry has its own taste and this book is really worth to read.

The book is available at following:

I would like to congratulate him for getting his work published and also like to thank him for giving me an opportunity to go through his literary pieces and I hope he will continue to offer the readers with his beautiful work in future as well in the form of his writing.

Ashish Kumar

Bhagat Singh – The Real Hero


September 27 marks the birth anniversary of the greatest son and freedom fighter of India, Bhagat Singh. He was born on this auspicious day in 1907 in Lyallpur district of the Punjab Province of British India. He was a patriot by birth and was always ready to go to any extent that is beneficial for country’s independence. His bravery is world known. This post is a simple tribute to this brave and fearless fighter. He lived only for 24 years but within this short span of time, he was able to make an everlasting impact on millions of millions of Indians.

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When Bhagat Singh was 12 years old, he visited the site of Jallianwala Bagh massacre where thousands of unarmed innocent people were killed which marked an impact of British cruelty on Indians on his mind. He was disillusioned with Gandhi philosophy of non-violence  after Gandhi called off the non cooperation movement. He had devoted his entire life for the cause of nation and that is why he was reluctant to get married. In fact he left the home to avoid marriage and wrote a letter in which he had quoted.

My life has been dedicated to the noblest cause, that of the freedom of the country. Therefore, there is no rest or worldly desire that can lure me now.

Simon Commission was set up by British in 1928 but it did not have any Indian members. So there was a huge protest across the country. Lala Lajpat Rai led a march in protest against the Commission. Police attempts to disperse the large crowd resulted in violence. The superintendent of police, James A. Scott, ordered the police to lathi charge the protesters and personally assaulted Rai, who was injured. Rai died of a heart attatck on 17 November 1928. In a way to take revenge of his death, Singh conspired with revolutionaries like Shivaram Rajguru, Sukhdev Thapar and Chandrashekhar Azad to kill Scott. However, in a case of mistaken identity, the plotters shot John P. Saunders, an Assistant Superintendent of Police, as he was leaving the District Police Headquarters in Lahore on 17 December 1928.

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Bhagat Singh is most popularly known for his involvement in bomb explosion in Central Legislative Assembly on April 8, 1929. He along with his revolutionary friend Batukeshwar Dutt accompanied the explosion. They were present their only after the bomb blast and shouted the slogan “Inquilab Zindabad”  and were arrested.  The nominal intention was to protest against the Public Safety Bill and the Trade Dispute Act, which had been rejected by the Assembly but were being enacted by the Viceroy using his special powers; the actual intention was for the perpetrators to get themselves arrested so that they could use appearances in court as a stage to publicise their cause. Their intention was not to kill but to make their voice audible to British government as in the words of  Bhagat Singh – ” If the deaf are to hear the sound has to be very loud”.

The execution started and based on the investigation Sukhdev, Bhagat Singh and Rajaguru were found guilty of Saunders murder, Assembly bombing and bomb manufacture and were put in jail. The discrimination between European and Indian prisoners in all areas in jail lead to infinite hunger strike started by Bhagat Singh and his followers in jail in order to protest. The Britishers used all the ticks and tricks including force-feeding and other tortures but were unable to put single drop of water in their mouth. The fast lasted for 116 days until it broke. Meanwhile, the trial continued and  on 7 October 1930, the tribunal delivered its 300-page judgement based on all the evidence and concluded that participation of Singh, Sukhdev and Rajguru was proved beyond reasonable doubt in Saunders’ murder. They were sentenced to death by hanging. The remaining twelve accused were all sentenced to rigorous life imprisonment.

On 23rd March, 1931,  Sukhdev, Bhagat Singh and Rajaguru were hanged till death and became immortal in our heart. This day is celebrated as Shaheed Divas or Martyrs’ Day in India.

Bollywood had also paid tribute to this son of India by making movies depicting his life and struggle. The most successful movie remains Manoj Kumar’s Shaheed which was released in 1965. In 2002 three movies were made on Bhagat Singh’s life namely Ajay Devgn’s  The Legend of Bhagat Singh, Bobby Deol’s 23rd March 1931 Shaheed and Shaheed-e-Azam.   The 2006 film Rang De Basanti is a film drawing parallels between revolutionaries of Bhagat Singh’s era and modern Indian youth.

Bhagat Singh was not only a revolutionary but he was a writer too. You will be surprised to know that he was an atheist. In his book “Why I am an atheist”  he had thoroughly described the reason behind being an atheist. I have read that book and it is worth read for all those who love to read books. It won’t take much of your time as it is not thick it is thin. 🙂 I would like to share one of the extract from that book which can be found on wikipedia page too…

As regard the origin of God, my thought is that man created God in his imagination when he realised his weaknesses, limitations and shortcomings. In this way he got the courage to face all the trying circumstances and to meet all dangers that might occur in his life and also to restrain his outbursts in prosperity and affluence. God, with his whimsical laws and parental generosity was painted with variegated colours of imagination. He was used as a deterrent factor when his fury and his laws were repeatedly propagated so that man might not become a danger to society. He was the cry of the distressed soul for he was believed to stand as father and mother, sister and brother, brother and friend when in time of distress a man was left alone and helpless. He was Almighty and could do anything. The idea of God is helpful to a man in distress.

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This post is a tribute to one of the greatest son 0f India who hanged happily for the sake of nation.

– Ashish Kumar

Note – This is the 100th post on this blog and I would like to thank all of you from bottom of my heart for supporting and motivating me which made me to write always. And I hope the journey continues… 🙂

…DAY 2 – QUOTE CHALLENGE…


One of my friend Kritika have nominated me for 3 day quote challenge. This is for the third time that I am taking up the challenge. Reading and writing quotations is very pleasant for me. I would like to thank her for the same.  She is a versatile writer with very nice creativity in her writing. Her blog title FROM THE SOUL TO THE NIB OF THE PEN justify her writings. Do visit her blog for reading beautiful pieces… 🙂

This is the second day of the challenge. Here are the rules.

  •   Post a favourite quote of yours for 3 consecutive days,  obviously  a different quote         each day from any book, any author of your choice. It could also be your own quote.
  •   Nominate 3 bloggers with each post to challenge them.
  •   Thank the person who nominated you.

I would like to share this quote of mine…

Sometimes tears comes  from the eyes even though we have not cried.                                                                                                                            -Ashish

 

My nominations for day 2 for this challenge are as follows…

Looking forward to read the great quotes from all the nominees…  🙂 Have a great day… 🙂

 – Ashish Kumar

…KNOWLEDGE…


We all are familiar with this word. We always use this word in our day to day life. I don’t think that there is any day when we don’t use or come across this word. This word “knowledge” is of utmost importance in everyone’s life.  We also use this word in sarcastic manner whenever required. We also tease others sometimes with a joke or in serious manner that “how much knowledge do you posses???”  When we say like this or ask such type of questions to others do we ever realize what knowledge do we posses? Do we have the right to judge others on the basis of their knowledge? Do we know everything? Or we are having so much over confidence that we always try to demoralize others by throwing such kind of questions???

 

   Before i go to answer the above raised questions let me put one more question in line.

       WHAT IS A KNOWLEDGE?

How many know the answer to this question? I know this is one of the shit question being asked by someone or this might be the worst question to many of us.  But this question cannot be ignored. We should find the answer to this question. Are we really a knowledgeable person? I will not throw any more question as of now because i have already bombarded many questions.

 

So let me come to the point now. What is a knowledge. Is knowledge means reading thick books only. Or memorizing all the topics like a parrot and score good marks in the exam.  Or knowledge means understanding each and every topic thoroughly  and implement  it according to the needs and requirement. If i say that this person is very knowledgeable then within a fraction of second his/her image is generated in our mind and our perception starts accordingly. We start thinking in one direction. The picture comes that he is the most intellectual person of this world.

Here comes our fault… When we say that he is a knowledgeable person then we always perceive in one direction and that direction is knowledge related to books or “bookish knowledge”.

In my opinion there are two kinds of knowledge. They are:

1. Bookish knowledge
2. Behavioral knowledge

We all are familiar  with bookish knowledge and most of us is having bookish knowledge. But do we have behavioral knowledge.   Yes  most of us are having bookish knowledge but  when it comes to behavioral  knowledge , i am sorry to say the  count is very few.  

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In this fast moving world we are able to gain bookish knowledge and there is no problem in it. I am not criticizing the bookish knowledge which is a must requirement  to survive. We must have the knowledge related to our fields but at the same time we are forgetting our behavior or behavioral knowledge.   When it comes to behavior it is very difficult to find a person having proper behavior.

 

In the present world the number of knowledgeable person is increasing but at the same time the number of behavioral person is diminishing. There might be some reason why the behavior is getting degraded day by day. One of the reason may be the greed  to get everything even though we didn’t deserve to have it. That greed may degrade the behavior.  Other reason may be the lack of healthy competition now a days. People use foul practices in order to defeat their competitors which definitely affect their behaviors. One of the most important or i can say root cause of lack of behavior is “lack of satisfaction”. No one is satisfied now a days and that leads to unfair activities being done by them which ultimately leads to the degradation of their behavior.  

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Let me give few examples where lack of behavior is being observed.

   Suppose your friend needs your help. He/she might be in trouble and needs you. You helped him when he required. But after that there is a sudden change in his behavior. He has stopped talking to you suddenly without letting you know the reason for the same. At that time you will really  feel bad  and you will definitely think for sometime that what went wrong. Here comes the behavioral picture of a person. It didn’t costs anything to talk to that person who helped you when you were in vain. But it happens as we all know because nobody knows when and where there will be a U-turn in the behavior of a person. This is one of the biggest drawback of any person to take a U-turn anonymously which should not happen .

 

  This is one of the simple example i have given. There are many more. I am sure you all might have come across the situation where the behavior of person have hurt you. Life is such full of twists and turns.

If the behavior of a person is good then he will be happy and can lead a good life. I agree good behavior cannot decide how much sum of money will you earn in your life but its also true that your behavior decides who will stay in your life. 

 

As i mentioned above the two kinds of knowledge : Bookish and Behavioral. 

Having only bookish knowledge can make your career bright and you can earn many thing.

Having only behavioral knowledge  but no bookish knowledge  can make people available for you or you can have people surrounding you.

But having the combination of both bookish and behavioral knowledge is an optimum one which will make you a “good human being” and becoming a good human being is the toughest task… 

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– Ashish Kumar