Why do people react so often ???


There are time when we come across situations where the conversation among the two persons becomes aggressive suddenly and we are left in shocking condition. We wonder what went wrong suddenly? The reason for such reactions can be many from suppressing the anger to intentionally reacting to get rid of the conversation, and at the same time, avoid interacting with such person in future as well. Also sometimes the problem which can be resolved properly becomes complex due to such reactions. In a group also if everything is going fine and suddenly one of the group members reaction is not up to the mark, things become complicated. The problem which can be solved politely and peacefully becomes complex and sometime going in to never solving state. But what make people to react at a sudden?

There are many who pretend to be too familiar and behavioral with friends or groups and leave no stone unturned to maintain such status in front of others even though they aren’t. And from the back they continue to criticize you unnecessary which hurts when it comes in to your knowledge. Also it may happen when you need any assistance from these people because you think them to be humble enough, you may get a reverse reaction from them and it happens. I am sure many of you who are going through this post have experienced this in your life.  So, what can be said about those? Are such reactions optimal and feasible enough to continue?

Life is good when we are good to others. Behavior is one of the most important aspects in life which can make or break relations, which can be of any kind. Does such kind of unnecessary behavior required? We are human beings and we commit mistakes and that’s how we learn as learning is a continuous process. But what about those who commit mistakes and never acknowledge and continue to indulge in blame game? Newton’s 3rd law of motion says “every action is having an equal and opposite reaction”. In case if someone gives such reaction, shall we also start giving such response to those? Is tit for tat is the solution?

But one question which still remain unanswered is Why do people react so often even though if it is not required??? What is your view on this… Please share in the form of your comment… 🙂

– Ashish Kumar

 

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…KNOWLEDGE…


We all are familiar with this word. We always use this word in our day to day life. I don’t think that there is any day when we don’t use or come across this word. This word “knowledge” is of utmost importance in everyone’s life.  We also use this word in sarcastic manner whenever required. We also tease others sometimes with a joke or in serious manner that “how much knowledge do you posses???”  When we say like this or ask such type of questions to others do we ever realize what knowledge do we posses? Do we have the right to judge others on the basis of their knowledge? Do we know everything? Or we are having so much over confidence that we always try to demoralize others by throwing such kind of questions???

 

   Before i go to answer the above raised questions let me put one more question in line.

       WHAT IS A KNOWLEDGE?

How many know the answer to this question? I know this is one of the shit question being asked by someone or this might be the worst question to many of us.  But this question cannot be ignored. We should find the answer to this question. Are we really a knowledgeable person? I will not throw any more question as of now because i have already bombarded many questions.

 

So let me come to the point now. What is a knowledge. Is knowledge means reading thick books only. Or memorizing all the topics like a parrot and score good marks in the exam.  Or knowledge means understanding each and every topic thoroughly  and implement  it according to the needs and requirement. If i say that this person is very knowledgeable then within a fraction of second his/her image is generated in our mind and our perception starts accordingly. We start thinking in one direction. The picture comes that he is the most intellectual person of this world.

Here comes our fault… When we say that he is a knowledgeable person then we always perceive in one direction and that direction is knowledge related to books or “bookish knowledge”.

In my opinion there are two kinds of knowledge. They are:

1. Bookish knowledge
2. Behavioral knowledge

We all are familiar  with bookish knowledge and most of us is having bookish knowledge. But do we have behavioral knowledge.   Yes  most of us are having bookish knowledge but  when it comes to behavioral  knowledge , i am sorry to say the  count is very few.  

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In this fast moving world we are able to gain bookish knowledge and there is no problem in it. I am not criticizing the bookish knowledge which is a must requirement  to survive. We must have the knowledge related to our fields but at the same time we are forgetting our behavior or behavioral knowledge.   When it comes to behavior it is very difficult to find a person having proper behavior.

 

In the present world the number of knowledgeable person is increasing but at the same time the number of behavioral person is diminishing. There might be some reason why the behavior is getting degraded day by day. One of the reason may be the greed  to get everything even though we didn’t deserve to have it. That greed may degrade the behavior.  Other reason may be the lack of healthy competition now a days. People use foul practices in order to defeat their competitors which definitely affect their behaviors. One of the most important or i can say root cause of lack of behavior is “lack of satisfaction”. No one is satisfied now a days and that leads to unfair activities being done by them which ultimately leads to the degradation of their behavior.  

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Let me give few examples where lack of behavior is being observed.

   Suppose your friend needs your help. He/she might be in trouble and needs you. You helped him when he required. But after that there is a sudden change in his behavior. He has stopped talking to you suddenly without letting you know the reason for the same. At that time you will really  feel bad  and you will definitely think for sometime that what went wrong. Here comes the behavioral picture of a person. It didn’t costs anything to talk to that person who helped you when you were in vain. But it happens as we all know because nobody knows when and where there will be a U-turn in the behavior of a person. This is one of the biggest drawback of any person to take a U-turn anonymously which should not happen .

 

  This is one of the simple example i have given. There are many more. I am sure you all might have come across the situation where the behavior of person have hurt you. Life is such full of twists and turns.

If the behavior of a person is good then he will be happy and can lead a good life. I agree good behavior cannot decide how much sum of money will you earn in your life but its also true that your behavior decides who will stay in your life. 

 

As i mentioned above the two kinds of knowledge : Bookish and Behavioral. 

Having only bookish knowledge can make your career bright and you can earn many thing.

Having only behavioral knowledge  but no bookish knowledge  can make people available for you or you can have people surrounding you.

But having the combination of both bookish and behavioral knowledge is an optimum one which will make you a “good human being” and becoming a good human being is the toughest task… 

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– Ashish Kumar