Solitude – Pleasure or pain?



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Solitude is one the situations which often makes or break confidence, relations, mindset, perception etc. It is the state or situation where one feels alone or lonely. Human nature wants to be known and admired and solitude is just opposite where one finds himself to be detached from everyone. The reason of being felt lonely can be many like not getting what desired, love failure, introvert nature, jealousy etc. The repercussion of solitude is sometimes harsh even leading to suicidal death which is startling and extreme. One of the main consequences of solitude is that people lose hope and get depressed. Losing hope is that state where one finds nothing positive for himself and negative vibes starts accumulating in mind.

Feeling of loneliness is not new and one feels lonely several times in life. Some of the common reasons behind solitude are love failure, failure in innovating something new, break up in the relationships etc. If you are a song lover, you might have came across many songs which are solely based on solitude. When people fail in love, they think they are nowhere and they are the one who finds themselves the loneliest person in world. When someone resigns from his job because he doesn’t liked it, it also gives a lonely feeling till he finds a suitable job as per his interest. When there is a misunderstanding which leads to fight between family members and all are members are against you, solitude again finds a place. There are many other circumstances where one encounters solitude in his/her life. All these are part of life and should be taken as an experience.

Life has many aspects and solitude or feeling of loneliness is one of them which can be a pleasure or pain. Surprised to see how it can be a pleasure? Yes it can be a pleasure if one takes this as an opportunity. Generally, people consider solitude as a pain. It is a pain if one thinks it in that way and can be a pleasure as well if you have guts to convert that pain into pleasure which is difficult but not impossible. One should think in a different way and should take solitude as an opportunity. Solitude is that situation where one finds himself to be detached from rest of the world.  When you are detached, you have enough time to think and rejuvenate yourself. Surprised??? Solitude gives you a chance to talk to yourself what we call as introspection and introspection leads to creativity and innovation. When you introspect, you are able to find the loopholes and can start from scratch or can find the better way round which can give fruitful results. Solitude also gives you the chance to know your inner strength, how strong you are and how you are going to manage trying circumstances. All these counts and makes you much stronger than before. Converting solitude into an opportunity is difficult but not impossible. Solitude indeed gives you a chance to prove yourself and come back with smiling face post debacle, if any.  The only thing matter is how one takes this situation, either positive or negative. Choice has to be made.

It takes time to get rid of the bad moments where one finds himself detached but should not allow prolong accumulation of negative vibes which ultimately leads to depression and frustration. Take time and start as nothing lasts forever.  If you keeps on thinking and thinking on what happened in past or past bad memories then how you will live in present and how will you secure your future? In my opinion, solitude is neither a disaster nor a debacle;  it’s a part of our life. Life has many layers, both good and bad. I too have been in solitude several times and was able to tackle which was a nice experience. Experience again is very important in life, both positive and negative which makes you a strong person which helps you in decision making. Remember one thing, if you feel lonely because of absence of people around you, your conscience and confidence still remains within you which are capable enough to convert negative into positive. What I would convey is take solitude not as a burden but spent some time and think and come back with smiling face. Lastly, I would like to share one of the famous quotes of Bob Marley.

You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.

Bob Marley

 

– Ashish Kumar

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The best is yet to come


Cursed in the middle of life.
Darkened by the absence of light.
Depressed by the fall of a fruitful tree.
Receiving problem from life without fee.
Moving in the unknown path.
In search of a new path.
May be the chance is not much.
But the best is yet to come.

During of midst of good and bad.
Thought whether life has made me mad.
Shivered from the sudden demise of hope.
I am finding the cape of good hope.
Life is never problem free.
Wondered is life is a problem for me?
Finding solution which is some.
As the best is yet to come.

Haunted memoirs often come in my dream.
Burning those memoirs with my new dream.
Loving the problems is my new hobby.
As I do love my hobby.
Life has no meaning without problems.
Attitude is to tackle the problem.
Although one may not always succeed.
Try and take risk in order to proceed.
Life gave many startling situations.
Paved me to take startling decisions.
Left in an uncertain and sudden void.
I cried a lot with inner voice.
Body shivered and heart crippled.
I was left with nothing settled.
Accepted the tragedy with stone-hearted heart.
As I have to start from scratch first.
Sooner or later I will stand and come.
As the best is yet to come.
The best is yet to come.

– Ashish Kumar

Complaints about life…


In the crowd of millions.
It’s difficult to find the right one.
During the good and bad times.
It’s not easy to manage the time.
Life gave a lot of experience.
It is better to gain the real sense.
Startling situation came often in life.
I don’t have any complaints about life.

The world is full of fake faces.
It is difficult to find the right face.
Having no tragedy is a tragedy.
Better to face the tragedy.
Going in the dark side.
I often had the bad side.
Finding a shoulder to cry.
I used to smile followed by cry.
Done a lot to keep things intact.
Rather than blocking the contact.
Sometimes eyes were red and face became dark.
As I have to listen to people’s bark.
No issues as this is life.
Startling situation often came in life.
I don’t have any complaints about life.
Don’t have any complaints about life.

Ashish Kumar

Better to do something…


 

Life is full of unexpected events.
Sometimes bad sometimes good.
Making cry or smile at those events.
It’s good to have experience.
Sometimes startling and sometimes enjoying.
During the midst of day and night.
We often come across several memories.
Some haunted and some taunted.
Memories remains forever.
Events can’t be forgotten.
But can  only be forgiven.

Some moments are everlasting.
Making us to cherish.
Some are really unfortunate.
It is our duty to make it fortunate.
This is what life’s all about.
Here we are born and will be dead one day.
Better to do something…
That will be remembered for everyday.
Time is less and life is short.
Better to do something…
That will reside in everyone’s heart.

– Ashish Kumar

What is good and bad ?


There are times when we are not able to distinguish between the good and the bad. How do we come to a conclusion whether this is good or that is bad ? Is there a parameter for the same ? Well… this is an open debate and will remain as everyone has its own way to distinguish between the two. One thing can be good for someone and the same can be bad for others. This happens for sure. This article discusses about the goodness and badness.

In the fast moving world, we often come to circumstances where we are  not in a condition to come to a conclusion. A dilemma surrounds us. How do we call something is good ? If somebody helps you in trying condition, is that good ? When you are forced to do what you don’t want to do, is that good ? The normal answer is yes and no respectively.  There is also a time when we take some startling decisions hoping to have good impact in future but reverse happens. Life is full of twists and turns. Every individual has its own way to distinguish between the two.

Let me give some practical examples. Suppose a boy and a girl are in love with each other. The girl suddenly thinks that he is not a perfect match for her and decides to call an end to the relationship. When the boy comes to know the same he will be in shock for sometime for sure. Boy will definitely have  a kind of negativity and darkness at that time and in general he will say the girl did very bad to me. Ladki ne mere sath bahut ganda kiya… bla, bla etc… 😦  The reverse can also happen.  The thing is the boy thinks that the girl had done bad to him and at the same time the girl will think its good that I decided to dump him…. Now have a look at a different perspective. Suppose there are two friends who are having good friendship for a long time. First one has never been in bad doings and the second had done some bad in the past but not to his friend.  Both are having equal trust on each other. Suddenly there is a U turn taken by the second one due to greed or some other reason and he did something to his best friend which the later had never expected which ultimately lands his friend in no mans land. Now with this kind of betrayal the one who had never done bad in his life seems to have totally gone out of his goodness. He starts doing things which is totally out of his domain and range indulging in nuisance activities and ultimately harming others as well. Here betrayal made a good man finally coming in to a bad man now.  Is it right to become bad from good ?

The question what is good and what is bad has no answer in general. This is also a question which was running in my mind for many years. So I thought of raising this uncommon question in the form of this article. At the end, I would like to share one of the quotes of one of the greatest son of India, Maharshi Dayanand Saraswati  who in this quote had given a strong message which makes this quote one of my favorite.

When bad does not leave their badness why does the good leave there goodness.

            – Maharshi Dayand Saraswati 

 

So what according to you is good and bad ? Share your views… 🙂

– Ashish Kumar