Solitude – Pleasure or pain?



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Solitude is one the situations which often makes or break confidence, relations, mindset, perception etc. It is the state or situation where one feels alone or lonely. Human nature wants to be known and admired and solitude is just opposite where one finds himself to be detached from everyone. The reason of being felt lonely can be many like not getting what desired, love failure, introvert nature, jealousy etc. The repercussion of solitude is sometimes harsh even leading to suicidal death which is startling and extreme. One of the main consequences of solitude is that people lose hope and get depressed. Losing hope is that state where one finds nothing positive for himself and negative vibes starts accumulating in mind.

Feeling of loneliness is not new and one feels lonely several times in life. Some of the common reasons behind solitude are love failure, failure in innovating something new, break up in the relationships etc. If you are a song lover, you might have came across many songs which are solely based on solitude. When people fail in love, they think they are nowhere and they are the one who finds themselves the loneliest person in world. When someone resigns from his job because he doesn’t liked it, it also gives a lonely feeling till he finds a suitable job as per his interest. When there is a misunderstanding which leads to fight between family members and all are members are against you, solitude again finds a place. There are many other circumstances where one encounters solitude in his/her life. All these are part of life and should be taken as an experience.

Life has many aspects and solitude or feeling of loneliness is one of them which can be a pleasure or pain. Surprised to see how it can be a pleasure? Yes it can be a pleasure if one takes this as an opportunity. Generally, people consider solitude as a pain. It is a pain if one thinks it in that way and can be a pleasure as well if you have guts to convert that pain into pleasure which is difficult but not impossible. One should think in a different way and should take solitude as an opportunity. Solitude is that situation where one finds himself to be detached from rest of the world.  When you are detached, you have enough time to think and rejuvenate yourself. Surprised??? Solitude gives you a chance to talk to yourself what we call as introspection and introspection leads to creativity and innovation. When you introspect, you are able to find the loopholes and can start from scratch or can find the better way round which can give fruitful results. Solitude also gives you the chance to know your inner strength, how strong you are and how you are going to manage trying circumstances. All these counts and makes you much stronger than before. Converting solitude into an opportunity is difficult but not impossible. Solitude indeed gives you a chance to prove yourself and come back with smiling face post debacle, if any.  The only thing matter is how one takes this situation, either positive or negative. Choice has to be made.

It takes time to get rid of the bad moments where one finds himself detached but should not allow prolong accumulation of negative vibes which ultimately leads to depression and frustration. Take time and start as nothing lasts forever.  If you keeps on thinking and thinking on what happened in past or past bad memories then how you will live in present and how will you secure your future? In my opinion, solitude is neither a disaster nor a debacle;  it’s a part of our life. Life has many layers, both good and bad. I too have been in solitude several times and was able to tackle which was a nice experience. Experience again is very important in life, both positive and negative which makes you a strong person which helps you in decision making. Remember one thing, if you feel lonely because of absence of people around you, your conscience and confidence still remains within you which are capable enough to convert negative into positive. What I would convey is take solitude not as a burden but spent some time and think and come back with smiling face. Lastly, I would like to share one of the famous quotes of Bob Marley.

You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.

Bob Marley

 

– Ashish Kumar

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48 thoughts on “Solitude – Pleasure or pain?

  1. Sana November 10, 2018 / 12:31 pm

    Hey! I really liked how you talked about every aspect of Solitude. Commendable, truly! 🎈
    I try to go by the words – Be alone if you want to but never feel lonely.

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    • Ashish kumar November 10, 2018 / 12:44 pm

      Thank you so much for reading and finding the article worth. Good thought you have as not to feel lonely even though if you are alone. Generally, people feel lonely in absence of people around them but their confidence and conscience remains with them.
      Thanks a lot for your views… Glad you liked the post… 🙂

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      • Sana November 10, 2018 / 1:15 pm

        Yes, absolutely that’s right. It’s my pleasure. 🙂

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      • Ashish kumar November 10, 2018 / 1:17 pm

        Thanks a lot… My pleasure too to have you here…. 🙂

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  2. savitha's Blog November 10, 2018 / 1:50 pm

    Sometimes, even being around people makes one feel lonely. Guess its one’s nature to be aloof from people and it’s fine. At the end of the day, one’s happiness matters.

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    • Ashish kumar November 10, 2018 / 1:57 pm

      Yes, having people around makes one feel lonely. There are crowd everywhere but then also people do feel lonely. Mere presence of people cannot end loneliness. It is the state of mind which thinks one is lonely. Obviously, happiness matters at the end. I wrote this post keeping in mind the perception that solitude is generally considered to be a bad situation which is not the case always…

      Welcome to my blog. Very nice to know your thoughts and adding one more dimension on solitude… Thanks a lot for reading… Keep visiting… 🙂

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  3. BeingAlive November 10, 2018 / 2:12 pm

    I completely agree as solitude can be a total life changing tool if taken in right stride…
    Thank u for sharing this useful reminder 👍🏻

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    • Ashish kumar November 10, 2018 / 2:17 pm

      It’s my pleasure share what I feel. Thank you so much for reading and finding it worth. I really appreciate your thoughts and your views. Thanks again. 👍😊

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    • Ashish kumar November 11, 2018 / 12:27 am

      Yes, one should stay positive. Thank you so much for your visit and reading and liking my work. Glad you appreciated my writing.
      Welcome to my blog. Keep visiting. 😄
      You can address me with my name dear. No formalities. I will be visiting your new blog soon. 😄

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  4. Jyotirmoy Sarkar November 11, 2018 / 10:03 pm

    Very nice write up on solitude covering almost all the necessary dimensions, personally i am an introvert and always enjoy my stay with myself, reading books and blogs,listening songs and most importantly realizing myself and the life more deeply all these i cherish a lot.

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    • Ashish kumar November 11, 2018 / 10:42 pm

      Thank you so much for your visit Jyotirmoy and sharing your views on Solitude. Glad you appreciated the post. 👍😄

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  5. Kranti November 11, 2018 / 11:45 pm

    Absolutely true.. it all depends how we take it..Solitude can be an opportunity for self-discovery and growth if taken positively!! Great post, dear!!

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    • Ashish kumar November 12, 2018 / 6:26 pm

      You rightly said, solitude can be an opportunity to for self-discovery if taken positively. It all depends on how we take it.
      Thanks a lot Kranti for taking time to read the article and finding it worth. Glad you appreciated it. Means a lot. 😄😄👍

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      • Kranti November 12, 2018 / 10:15 pm

        My absolute pleasure, dear! 😊

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      • Ashish kumar November 13, 2018 / 8:25 pm

        My pleasure too to have readers like you in my blogging world. 👍👍😄

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  6. Giovanni Augello November 13, 2018 / 2:33 pm

    I totally agree with your point of view: solitude is not necessarily a pain… sometimes it might be a great opportunity in order to make you much stronger than before.

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    • Ashish kumar November 13, 2018 / 8:50 pm

      Thanks a lot for your visit and reading and liking my work. Really appreciate your visit and sharing your views on the post.
      Welcome to my little world of writing. Keep visiting. 👍👍😄

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    • Ashish kumar November 13, 2018 / 8:53 pm

      It will surely pass on Akhila as nothing lasts forever. Hope you are doing good. Thanks for giving your time and reading the post. 👍

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      • Akhila November 16, 2018 / 1:03 pm

        yes ashish, i am fine.. Hope you too.. thanks

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      • Ashish kumar November 16, 2018 / 2:33 pm

        Good to hear that from you. I am also doing good. 😄

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  7. Himali Shah November 13, 2018 / 3:39 pm

    Solitude is refreshing, but I personally prefer to have company. Loneliness is boring !

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    • Ashish kumar November 13, 2018 / 8:54 pm

      Yes, solitude can be refreshing if taken positively. Everyone wants to have company which is a human nature.
      Thanks a lot Himali for reading and sharing your views. 👍😄

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      • Himali Shah November 13, 2018 / 9:08 pm

        The pleasure is all mine.. you have a beautiful way of making people think 🙂

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      • Ashish kumar November 13, 2018 / 9:47 pm

        This is a big compliment and I am really humbled to know the same. It’s because of readers like you who motivate me to write and share the same with you all. Thanks again. 👍🙏🤗

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      • Ashish kumar November 13, 2018 / 9:54 pm

        That’s so nice of you. Thanks a lot for your blessings. 😄

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  8. neelstoria November 13, 2018 / 8:15 pm

    I personally feel solitude and loneliness are two different things though the literal meaning of both overlap. Loneliness has is associated with a negativity, while solitude isn’t rather it is a tranquil and peaceful place to be all by yourself. Converting loneliness to a state of solitude is a challenge though and if you start liking your solitude that’s a dangerous to be in as well.
    Hope I haven’t confused you with my ramblings 🙂

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    • Ashish kumar November 13, 2018 / 9:45 pm

      Your comment is not a rambling. You have added a new dimension of solitude and loneliness of which I was not aware. Your views is different and really appreciate that you took the time to think in that shared the same here. Thanks a lot for your valuable views. 👏👏
      I would like to welcome you to my world of writing. Keep visiting and motivating me with your valuable views. 👍😄😄

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    • Ashish kumar November 13, 2018 / 11:09 pm

      My pleasure dear and welcome to my blog. Good to connect with you here. 👍😄

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  9. Infinite Living November 15, 2018 / 3:17 am

    The difference between solitude and being lonely is such a profound learning in life. One is so rich and the other needs a lot of nourishment. Very thoughtful post.

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    • Ashish kumar November 16, 2018 / 4:54 pm

      Agree. Solitude give time to reflect and contemplate provided one should take solitude positively. Good to know that solitude connotes to you this.
      Thanks a lot for sharing your valuable views on this article. Pleased to hear from you. 😄👍

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