The present day life is becoming hectic and busy day by day. There is hardly any people in this world who is escaped from having a problem. Its not that people were not having problems in olden days. In fact problem comes, reside and then goes. Sometimes the problem resides for many days or even an year but it has to go: it cannot just stuck to one’s life. Here i am considering problems not accidents like train accidents, road accidents, flight crash etc. Human beings have one more thing which makes them different from others and that is “feeling”, we have heart and no one wants to have his/her heart broken. But then also the heart breaks…
We have heart and we don’t want it to get hurt.
This is one of the article which i was trying to write for many days or in fact for an year. This is my personal thinking in which i have came to the conclusion which i am going to share here. I have tried to give a simple “funda” of being happy. Also in my opinion “problem is the second name of life”.
We always get hurt if our wish, demands, aims and objectives are not fulfilled irrespective of the reason. Then at that time our heart really get hurt , for a short time only but it does. Its the general saying that “ummeed pe duniya kayam hai(the world is based on expectation)”. Yes it is true. But expectation of what?
Does expectation means dependency?
Does expectation means giving away our responsibility and accountability?
Does it means not to work hard to fulfill our aims and objectives?
Does it means only to blame others for our failures?
The answer to all the above questions is unfortunately “yes” for most of the times. In present day most of the people are worried all the time. People always get hurt at each step. People depends on others and get hurt when they feel they are cheated. So why to depend?
Suppose one of your friend starts neglecting you. He is not talking to you and you need him for your own cause but he is not available for you. At that time you definately get hurt. It is possible that your work will be hampered because you are unnecessarily thinking about the incident.
Feeling of getting hurt is one of the most important cause of mental tension and problem. But we always take that tension and make our mind full of such peculiar cases. There are many example apart from which i have mentioned above in which people take tension and disturbs themselves mentally. We must introspect and analyse the reason for the problem. If we are able to do that then we can definately be free from some of the problems which hurts us.
One of the famous saying is “expectation always hurts”. Yes if you don’t want to get hurt “don’t expect from others”. Thats the simple funda. EXPECTATION is one of the main reason of being unhappy. If you will not expect from others then you will not get hurt. If you will not get hurt then you will be mentally and psychologically free. And if you are mentally free then you will definately deliver and if you will deliver you can be rewarded too.
So we must focus on our work rather than wasting our time in expecting from others. We must be self dependent. A student should focus on his studies rather than expecting a miracle during the examination time. Be self dependent. Every human being has some special in him/her. So try to find that “special” in yours and proceed in the right direction then you will be the master of yourself. Never lose patience because loss of patience is the ultimate disaster.
But a farmer should expect from god that monsoon comes at right time so that he can pour the crops at the proper time which will make our stomach full. Here “expectation” from god is required. 🙂
Hence there are two aspects of expectation, it depends on us which one to take.
So Whats your take on expectation?…
– Ashish Kumar